All of us dream about, long for, need and wish for romance. We want to melt into a magic mystic dreamy feeling of flying and floating in sensual felicity and unity with another. Disappear into love above all love.

Romance is the expressive and pleasurable feeling from an emotional attraction towards another person often associated with sexual attraction. Romantic love implies expression of deep and strong emotional desires to connect with another person intimately or romantically. Romance is about feelings.
Romance is often expressed in music, art, architecture and cultures.

Humans have a natural inclination to form bonds with one another through social interactions, in use of a selective verbal communication or nonverbal gestures.
In romance verbal communication and practical acts are very important, often connected to a joyful game of seducing, for instance sending the beloved secret letters with poetry, sing serenates, surprise with lovingly gifts or invitations to lovingly experiences in romantic surroundings.

Most of all romance is with words telling the special selected beloved someone about all the beauties and attractive features, he or she possesses in the eyes of the one, who is in love.

Romance is likely associated with the first time in a stormy love affair, when we are in love. But we can also easily have long lasting relationships that are romantic for a lifetime, when we conscious continue to express and share words and acts of love in a romantic way.

Romance includes intimacy, either physical, emotional or both. We know of intimate romantic relationships lasting for many years through exchange of love-letters between two lovers living distanced. As this love cannot be realized physical the romantic atmosphere is continues kept alive by dreaming of the beloved as a magical wonder.

Intimacy is characterized by close friendships, platonic love, romantic love or sexual activity, – even many only regard intimacy as something sexual.
Most humans desire a belonging and love to be satisfied within an intimate relationship.
These involve feelings of liking or loving one or more people, romance, physical or sexual attraction or interaction, – or emotional and personal support between the members. Intimate relationships allow a social network for people to form strong emotional attachments that is not necessary a partnership or a romantic bond.

Many long-lasting friendships can be deeply intimate based on trust and honesty, warm care and compassion, hugs, embraces and sharing of private emotional states and experiences.

Emotional intimacy expressed verbal and non-verbal appears in the degree of comfort and mutual experience of closeness between individuals. This is both expressed through talking and writing, – also it implies for instance friends sitting close together in silence. Emotional intimacy depends primarily on trust, as well as the nature of the relationship and the culture in which it takes place.

Emotional intimacy is different from sexual intimacy. Sexual intimacy can take place with or without any emotional intimacy, which often does not imply any kind of sexual connection.

Emotional intimacy is a psychological event that happens when levels of trust and communication between two people grow a close mutual sharing of one another’s deepest selves. Emotional intimacy can be shared not just with your partner in life, but also with friends, family and colleagues, – even pets.

Emotional intimacy many of us recognize as close bonds across generations, as grandmother being the closest support, coach and adviser for a grandchild about how to handle situations that seem difficult.

Deep intimacy requires a high level of transparency and openness with communication as the most important tool.
As example long distance relations often grow much stronger than normal relations, because it forces the involved partners to enhance the conversation process including a sudden degree of vulnerability that else would have felt uncomfortable or produce anxiety, if the individuals had been present to each other physically.

Couples who act with emotional intimacy are able to be more comfortable with each other, sharing their dreams along with their positive and negative characteristics and romantic longings.
Emotional intimacy is being able to communicate your feelings to show how much you care. We seem to be willing to tell each other everything. Also about shameful secrets. These can be romantic and not.

The nonverbal communication between us is communication through sending and receiving wordless clues. It includes the use of visual cues as body language, distance, physical environment and appearance, use of voice and touch.
It can also include use of time, eye contact and the actions of looking while talking and listening, frequency of glances, patterns of fixation, pupil dilation and blink rate.

In romantic relationships the nonverbal communication is as important as the verbal to elevate romantic feelings between two lovers.
Also the spoken exchange contains nonverbal elements including voice quality, volume, rate, pitch and the style of speaking as rhythm, intonation and stress.

Written texts can have nonverbal elements such as handwriting style, spatial arrangement of words, or the physical layout of a page.

We often regard non-verbal communication as the interaction between individuals. The behaviour. This can be classified into three principles: environmental conditions where the communication takes place, physical characteristics of the communicators – and behaviours of communicators during interaction.

When we express the romantic habits of behaviour we are brought up with, we can easily be misunderstood by another brought up with different habits and rituals of love expressions. The process of non-verbal exchange is about encoding and decoding.

Encoding is the act of generating for instance romantic information such as tender, sweet and caring facial expressions, gestures and postures. Decoding is the interpretation of information from received sensations from previous experiences.

Therefore it is important that we get conscious about what happens in our giving and receiving, if we wish to keep a romantic atmosphere to be strong and durable. Asking what feels romantic for the other and tell the other about our own romantic dreams.

One can experience that walking quietly hand and hand on beach in sunset is deeply romantic, the other might instead find dancing and singing together naked in summer-rain and get muddy feet as the most romantic in the world.

One might melt completely into a romantic mood by reading lovable poetry, the other instead need physical touch for romantic feelings to grow.

One may experience that sitting silent together with coffee an early morning by tent in nature is more romantic than anything, another may dream away in romantic states dressed elegant to a classical concert in a royal hall.

Only a small part of brain processes verbal communication. As infants nonverbal communication is learned from social-emotional communication, making the face rather than words important part of communication.
As we grow up to be verbal communicators, we begin to notice facial expressions, vocal tones and other nonverbal elements more subconsciously.
Many adults are no longer conscious aware of how to “read” the non-verbal language by others. The good news is that we can practice and relearn this again.

To evolve a romantic atmosphere and romantic feelings by another, we must use clear and direct expressions, if we want to make sure that our message and goal of love is understood.

Romance includes a variety of feelings, states and attitudes from affection, attraction, to pleasure, worry, longing, fear of losing, scare, thrill, tenderness, attachment, kindness, suffering, care, compassion, sadness, symbioses, separation and being deeply touched.

We could say that romance is rather complex – although it seems to be quite simple for us, when we are in love. Because so many emotions come forward in romance, we feel that we are alive – really living and present. That’s why we prefer romantic moments, despite the hurtfulness that is also included. Feeling fully alive seems always better than to be in a state of emptiness and nothingness.

The romantic attraction is described in a huge number of love-songs, novels, poetry, in paintings, art at all, – but rarely this important human need is a serious part of business (except if it’s about selling romantic stuff), and also not in service, education, politics or health.

So much many of us loved Elvis Prestly’s soft deep voice and romantic lyrics, as George Gordon Byron´s and Williams Blake’s poetry spoke to people’s hearts in end of 1800. But we don’t create romantic beauty and aesthetic in classrooms for children or meeting-rooms for business boards.

After the Middle Ages romance was an important expression in architecture, whereas romance does rarely appear in buildings and houses of today.

We set up romantic decorations in physical surroundings, mostly when it is about lovingly situations within private couples, at some special family traditions or special events: candlelight dinners, walks by beach in sunset, holidays at romantic hotels, gatherings around a bonfire, kissing in moonlight, to weddings at old castles, Christmas and women’s birthdays etc.

We value the romantic sceneries as manifestation of what we wish and long for, even it sometimes seems to be an illusion without real romantic content.
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What is romance for you?
How does it feel?
How do you express romance?
To whom?
When?
How do you wish it to be expressed and realized in your everyday life?
When was last time, you were in a romantic mood?
On a scale from 1-10, how important is romance for you?
How is romance implicated at your workplace?
How is romance part of behaviour in your local culture?
What does it mean to you to feel enchanted?
What is a magic lovingly state of being for you?
Are you able to create it?